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Dating In Your 40s, 50s & 60s 

Posted: 2008-02-22 17:10:01

By Julie Taylor 
Courtesy of Match.com’s
Happen magazine

Want love and relationship advice that speaks specifically to the life stage you’re in? Read on for wisdom you need now to suit any and every age.

There are certain things about dating that, no matter your age, remain the same, from the butterflies you feel when you meet someone cute to that painfully sweet moment when you exchange your first I love you’s. And yet let’s be honest: There are also major differences between hooking up fresh out of college, looking for a mate during mid-life, or finding a companion when you’re 60-something. Goals shift. Priorities change. To help you navigate each decade, we consulted leading dating and relationship experts to pinpoint the common desires and pitfalls of each age group — and got their advice on how you can maximize your dating experience along the way. 


Dating in Your 40s 
Since half of all first marriages fail, the 40-something singles scene is flooded with divorced folk who are back on the market — with somewhat rusty dating skills. Or people who can be feeling ready for the ”real thing” — if only they could find The One.

Brush up on your dating skills
If you’re dating after a split, ease into it, says Beatty Cohan, co-author of ‘For Better, For Worse, Forever: Discover the Path to Lasting Love’. Make small talk with the person next to you in the grocery store line, or go out on a ”practice” date with a friend, asking them to be brutally honest about how you come across. You may also be way overdue for a makeover. ”This doesn’t mean you have to get a facelift,” she says, but it just might be time to trade in that ten-year-old pair of stonewashed, baggy jeans for a pair that actually fits.

Don’t date too soon after divorce
People frequently date too soon after a divorce, warns Parmelee. ”They need to allow themselves time to heal and recognize how they contributed to the demise of their relationship.” That way, history is less likely to repeat itself, and they won’t fall into the same destructive patterns. To gauge if you’re ready, ask yourself these questions, suggests Judsen Culbreth, author of ‘The Boomers Guide to Online Dating:’ Do you have an accepting attitude of the opposite sex — that is, do you not think all men are jerks or that all women are gold-diggers? Are you engaged in activities and interests besides your work and kids? Do you believe you have control and can shape what happens in your love life? If you answered yes to these questions, then you may indeed have the right attitude.

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The Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) is the largest relationship coach training organization in the world. For the past eleven years, the institute has been dedicated to providing singles and couples with the skills needed to create successful and lasting partnerships. Coaching professionals from the Institute lend their expertise to help Boomers create their dream relationships.Frankie Doiron, RCI’s President, serves as the Program Director of Boomer-Living’s Relationship Center. Ms. Doiron’s passion inspires people to tap the power they possess to achieve their goals. She believes that success in life is based on relationships – especially the one we have with ourselves. The Boomer-Living.com Relationship Center provides Boomers with information and advice on a full spectrum of relationship issues including those specifically geared to Boomer singles and Boomer couples. The Single Boomers’ section focuses on dating and finding a compatible partner as well as creating a successful love relationship. The Boomer Couples’ section focuses on co-creating a highly functional and blissful relationship. In a special section entitled “Ask a Relationship Coach”, readers’ questions are answered by a worldwide network of relationship experts.Frankie Doiron and RCI coaches will co-host free Tele-seminars on the first Thursday of each month that will provide information and strategies on a variety of relationship issues. The first Tele-seminar, Conscious Dating for Boomers, will be held on February 7th from 8:00 PM - 9:00 PM EST.  This free Tele-seminar will focus on dating and will dispel the myths and misunderstandings that create so much frustration for mature daters.  The next Tele-seminar, Dealing with Our Baggage, will be held on March 6th from 8:00PM - 9:00 PM EST. The hosts will discuss how our past experiences, attitudes and beliefs affect our relationships. To participate in these seminars, or to find a complete list of upcoming seminars, visit www.boomer-living.com and click on the Relationship Center.   Dr. Douglas Fitzgerald, President of Boomer-Living.com, says “We aim to provide our members with trusted and reliable services. We take this role seriously. Frankie and the 400 relationship coaches, accessible through our Relationship Center, bring an exciting new dimension to our website.”Boomer-Living.com’ The goal is to MAKE A DIFFERENCE by striving to become the most comprehensive and reliable resource available to baby boomers. The website (www.boomer-living.com ) provides 12 Centers, each with its own specialty and represented by a top professional in their respective field. Each Center represents a specific Baby Boomer area of interest: arts & entertainment, culinary arts, financial planning, career management, fitness, healthcare, home center, relationships, total wellness, and travel in addition to a coffee house and home shopping. Boomer-Living.com continues to add new and exciting services and products designed to enhance and improve the quality of life for boomers. For more information, contact Dr. Douglas Fitzgerald at dfitzgerald@boomer-living.com or 215- 361-0779. ###